From almost all of the religious scriptures we came to know the meeting story of Adam and Eve. It is believed that, Adam was in the heavens with all the unrivaled version of glee and delights one human mind could ever imagine. There were mesmerizing fountains, Glamorous flowers bloomed all around. There he was allowed to eat all savory foods more than enough to rouse his taste buds. But still, he felt that, something was missing! He felt insufficient and disrupted.
After he described his emotional state to the Creator, Eve landed on the ever enduring heavens and relieved Adam with her love and care. They roamed all around the heavens together and were amused by the charms of the heavens.
Thus, from the very first women of the race till the latest just-born baby girl crying on the lap of doctor, the entire female community has technically drawn a greater portion of attention. Reliable sources say that women had been regarded as holy goddess in ancient past and people used bow down their heads at their foot. Let it be a luxurious heroine of a best seller novel or a victim of domestic violence, women had been a vital concern globally from the inception of the civilization. There are hundreds of poems written in hundreds of dialects narrating the beauty and grace of women. The symphony of those poems illustrates each and every detail of women with fabricated words. Again a distressed woman is also provided with condolence. Voices from almost all vocations and occupations are getting louder to loudest against physical and mental women.
But, if we dive deep in our thoughts and dissect the present scenario with logic, insights and common sense, we will be able to see that, the women are still unsafe and precarious on the earth. No matter she roams by the sea shore of Bali or reads a magazine cuddling on her bed, she is in the threat of being ragged, raped or abused anytime- any moment. A six months old toddler to a grandma, being too young or too old is not enough to secure you anymore.
Here, an interesting fact is that, there is a common perception of mass people that, the violence and torture towards women is more likely to be frequent and prevalent in the underdeveloped and the developing states. But, if we go through the most trustworthy newspapers and research works related to women abuse in the developed countries, we will be acknowledged with the reality. The truth is that, the female community of those first world states is also not very satisfied and secured there. Inside their families, the women are extremely tortured; both physically and mentally. Their societies also owe discrimination to women. Most often they are passively treated as a good. They are eye washed by the name of empowerment. A large chunk of these women are actually brutally abused and ill-treated inside their family and society.
Domestic abuse of various types and forms has accelerated all over the globe. Sociologists and other specialists from related fields are saying that, because of the complicated inter and intra connection among numerous social and economic factors, the origin and spread of violence to women cannot be collected under one umbrella. For this reason, solution of this gender-violence is becoming untraceable. But, there is still a dominant and controlling school of thought least focused and sometimes missed in this subject. I am trying to talk about ‘masculine psychology’ or men’s mind.
In most cases of cruelty and brutality toward women, we make the boys guilty. We do not try to realize the situation from men’s side. It has become our tendency to negatively criticize boys. Is blaming a hygienic way to solve such a serious matter? Obviously not! If we are really eager to give security to the women, the major thing we need to do here and now is to study about the boys. The investigation should exclusively focus on mental health of men. Torture and brutality towards women is against humanity. It is an abnormal act. Along with the studies of sociologists, the psychologists should also fold their sleeves to work to understand motivation, personality and emotions of men.
Comprehensive study and research on male psychology is a must at present. Mysteriously, the entire world had been ignoring it. We are taught that women are the origin of all enigmas and puzzles. They are complex riddles to read where the men are open books! No suspense: no tricks at all! Sounds brainless but most of us believe it subconsciously. And this involuntary absurd credence is allowing fast-track unroll of inhumanity against women around the globe. That’s why; we require having knowledge that exactly which stimuli are forcing him to become intolerant quickly and easily. Again generalizing all boys under a fixed frame is a crime. Many boys are as like shadow for family members. They are responsible to and caring of family members.
In contrast and compare to the behavior of boys of different types of personality trait, we must develop and expand our insights about men’s psychology. Specifically, what thought of a man is making him so aggressive that he becomes fierce and beats up his intimate partner or teases a little girl from his close neighborhood are to be determined. It can be a constructive and powerful step to address the gender-violence.
Lastly, a male heart is not a piece of graphite stone. He weeps too. To exhale his pain, he also needs a tight hug. He also craves for a peaceful listening pair of ears to come out with his words of stress and sorrow. Let them say their untold words. Unfold the black curtain of the thousands years old male mystery. They need to be cured with love and care medicine. After they get well, the women will feel free to run across the world and our mother earth will become safer place to live.
The author is a Student of Bangladesh University of Professionals