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Attitude and Manner Scoring Happiness of Life

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‘No matter how educated, talented, rich or cool you, believe you are how you treat people ultimately tells it all’
We can’t build anything without a solid foundation. The “A” is for Attitude – the foundation sustaining all successful people. Attitude is the “advance man” of our true selves.
The roots spread inward and are anchored in past experiences, and the fruit branch outward exposed for all to see. Attitude is both our best friend and our worst enemy. It is more honest and more consistent than our words. It is a manner which draws people to us, or repels them. It is never content unless it is expressed. It is the librarian of our past, the speaker of our present, and the prophet of our future.

Who Controls Attitude?
Your attitude is 100% within your control!
There are plenty of things in life that we have no control over. For example, there is absolutely nothing we could do about how people react to us, or our products and services. All we can do is control the manner in which we react. Yet, so many people let the reactions of others determine their outlook for the day. Think about it; are you as positive, upbeat and driven on a day full of rejection or criticism as you would be on a highly successful day? How do you react to failure? Do you walk away discouraged and complain about it or do you take control, stay focused, accept a lesson learned, and go on with your life? Success is based on good judgment and good judgment is founded on experience. The only way one can gain experience is through failure. We have to fail often to succeed once. This, and the way you react, is a reflection of attitude.
How you react, how you think, what you say to yourself or what you believe about yourself are all within your control and are portrayed by your attitude. You must first realize that your attitude is 100% within your control and then, learn to reflect, confirm and take hold of that attitude.
You must improve the attitude you hold towards yourself. Learn to overcome fear and to deal with rejection and failure in order to increase your productivity while saving time and money.
What is your attitude towards your organization, the team players and the products and services? Do you have an owner’s mentality? If so, what would you do differently? Why are you not doing it?
You must address these issues and possess a strong belief before you can move forward. Otherwise, the negativity is reflected in your attitude and is portrayed in your body language.
If you don’t believe in yourself and the organization that you represent including the team, the products and the services; then, it is time to find something you do believe in. It is impossible to engage others to believe in your product or service, if your attitude projects the opposite.

How to Improve Attitude?
Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you can’t. Either way, you are right.” This is so true and so worth passing on. So how can you as a parent create a “can-do, will-try” attitude in your children? You can start by encouraging positive thinking and by creating an environment that nurtures your children’s beliefs in their abilities. Having that confidence enables them to take risks that will help them reach their potential.
Positive Self-Talk: In his book Positive Self -Talk for Children, Douglas Bloch writes about the importance of affirmations, positive thoughts or ideas that one consciously focuses on in order to produce a desired result. For example, if you teach your child to have an optimistic view of solving problems with such words as “I can handle life’s challenges,” then later when confronted with an obstacle, your child can tell himself, “I can find a solution. I can keep trying.” As a result of his internal dialogue, he is more likely to persevere. In this way, a child’s positive self-talk becomes a positive self-fulfilling prophecy.
Positive Time: To foster that “I-can” attitude in your children, spend time with them. As you observe the uniqueness that each of your children possesses, focus on their strengths rather than on their weaknesses. This favorable assessment helps them to see themselves as capable and supports them as they take chances that will develop their areas of competency.
A great exercise to do with children is to ask them to write a list that describes what they are good at doing or what innate qualities they possess, such as having an engaging smile or being good at dancing or reading. This list can be placed in several different locations throughout the house, such as on the refrigerator, on the bathroom mirror, or above their beds. After days of seeing the list, they may internalize the ideas and gradually adopt the “I-can” attitude.
Positive Tools: The principles of etiquette are passed on from one generation to the next with the knowledge that good manners and compassion are fundamental to building useful and satisfying lives. Research suggests that well-mannered individuals generally share similar characteristics and values, including self-confidence, consideration for others, respect, common sense, tact, and flexibility. In addition, people your children encounter are more likely to respond favorably to a respectful approach.
Although peers, other adults, and the media will certainly exert considerable influence on your children as they mature, you are your child’s first teacher and role model. The mechanics of good manners can be learned at any age, but the earlier in childhood the process begins, the more natural mannerly behavior becomes. Two of the best ways to teach respect and consideration are by modeling and by expecting such behavior from your children.
Manners provide a code of conduct, guiding your children’s interactions with others. They help your children to think about how others may feel and how to make others comfortable in a given situation. Teaching proper etiquette not only produces polite children, but it also creates compassionate, thoughtful, and empathetic adults.
Well-known American essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Manners are the happy way of doing things.” These “happy ways” are among the extraordinary gifts you can give to your children.
Positive Moods: Children are very sensitive to their parents’ feelings and attitudes; they pick up when their parents are upset. Since bad moods are contagious, consider what you can do when you are feeling stressed. Some tried-and-true ideas include taking a walk, reading an inspirational book, calling a friend, gardening, cuddling with a pet, helping a neighbor, starting a gratitude journal etc!

Why you should think positively?
There are plenty of reasons, why you should think positively. In this article you will find five of them.When you know the reasons, you would be more motivated to adopt this attitude.
1. Happiness: A positive attitude awakens happiness. You don’t have to be rich or achieve goals to be happy. It is a matter of attitude. When you adopt a positive frame of mind you become happy. Happiness does not depend on external causes. It comes from inside you.You can be happy now. You don’t need to lose weight, get a promotion or win the lottery to be happy. It is a matter of attitude. Having a positive outlook on life will make you happy, while being negative will make you unhappy.
2. Motivation: Thinking positively will help you accomplish dreams and goals, and tasks would be easier to fulfill .Motivation is a positive quality and a wonderful trait to have. It pushes you forward, encourages you, and helps you overcome obstacles. A positive frame of mind increases your motivation to succeed and get what you want. It will make you believe you will get what you want. It will also motivate you to achieve more than you ever expected.
3. Self Esteem: Your attitude and the way you think have much to do with how you feel about yourself. If you adopt a positive attitude and think positively, you will have a better opinion of yourself, which means a sense of self-esteem.Choose to look at yourself in a positive light. See what is positive and good in you. This will automatically increase your self-esteem.
Don’t worry about negative people, and about what they think and say about you. When you have a positive attitude toward yourself, the people around you will have a better opinion of you, and would treat you with more respect. Loving yourself, being good to yourself, and being happy, are expressions of thinking positively. This attitude would also enhance your self confidence, your courage, and your inner strength.
4. Better Health: People who think positively are usually more energetic and healthy than people who think negatively. They are happier, and this of course, affects their health. The mind has a strong effect on the body and on health. When you think positively your immune system is healthier, and your body recuperates faster.
5. Improved Relations: Another reason, why you should adopt a positive way of thinking is the effect it has on relations with people. People tend to gravitate and to like positive people, and to keep a distance from negative people.
Positive people bring joy, happiness and uplifting energy, and are fun to be around. They bring light and joy, and energize their environment.

Power of Positive Attitude
The Power of Positive Attitude Can Change Your Life. A Positive Attitude Leads to Success and Happiness.A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.
Positive, constructive and creative thinking can help you in many ways, such as:
n Expecting success and not failure.
n Making you feel inspired.
n It gives you the strength not to give up, if you encounter obstacles on your way.
n It makes you look at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.
n Believing in yourself and in your abilities.
n Enables you to show self-esteem and confidence. You look for solutions, instead of dwelling on problems. You see and recognize opportunities.
A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but it also affects your environment and the people around you. If this attitude is strong enough, it becomes contagious. It’s as if you radiate light around you.
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More Benefits
This might seem like a repetition of the above, but it helps to make this message clearer. It helps you achieve goals and attain success with bringing more happiness in life. It is the attitude; I mean positive attitudes have great impact on social relationships. A positive thinker become able to inspire and motivate himself and others and can get more respect and love from people. Life smiles at him.
Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve anything.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve everything.
If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is the time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior, and start leading a happier and more successful life. If you tried to do so in the past and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Choose to be happy
Yes, it is a matter of choice. When negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them, doing your best to substitute them with happy thoughts Look at the bright side of life. It’s a matter of choice and repeated attempts. Choose to be optimistic. Find reasons to smile more often. You can find such reasons, if you search for them. Have faith in yourself, and believe that the Universe can help you. Associate yourself with happy people. Read inspiring stories. Read inspiring quotes. Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you. Visualize only what you want to happen, not what you don’t want. Learn to master your thoughts.